Choosing the Right Wedding Dance Song
Choosing your first dance song on your wedding day can be a trying experience for some, a chore for others and a downright nuisance for many. I mean, think about it, this is THE first song everyone will hear, see, experience when you and your spouse make their grand entrance as Husband and Wife. You only get one “first dance” song, so be certain that it directly reflects who you are as a couple. We asked Diane and Vinny Esposito, owners of Split Second Sound, the largest and most successful wedding DJ business in the Carolinas for their tips and advice on choosing the perfect wedding day first dance song. Here is their dispensation.
1. Reflect on Memories
When choosing this first dance, reflect on fond memories you and your loved one have shared. There may have been a specific moment that made you both realize you belonged together. These times could have been captured with a photo, a video, or simply memory, but it left a cherished stamp on your heart.
Choreographed first dance at Carrigan Farms, Mooresville, NC (Starling and Aaron)
2. Finding the Right Words
Don’t focus on who is singing the song. Focus on the lyrics. The words tell a story of why this was the right song. When you choose the right song, your guests will feel the love you both have. Guests will be listening to why this song speaks to the both of you. Capture your heart and theirs with finding a song that defines why this person was the right one. A trend we have been seeing lately is that couples are steering away from the typical “At Last” and choosing songs that are different versions of the actual song.
3. Make sure you can Dance to it
You both want a song you feel comfortable dancing too. You also want a beat that is fun for the both of you to share where you don’t focus on the movements, but focus on one another. And guest will not just be listening to the words, but will be watching how in sync you both are.
Emotional first dance at Uptown Mint Museum, Charlotte, NC (Kelly and Blair)
4. Don’t make the Song too Long
Keeping this song short and sweet will be enjoyable for your guests and not bore them. Most songs are about 3-4 minutes long so make it short and sweet to capture your guests hearts, and a song where it doesn’t make you both feel like you have been dancing forever. You should go over with your DJ prior to your big day if you would like to dance your first song from beginning to end or for it to be faded out in the middle. Your DJ should be watching you the entire time so that you both can lock eyes and give your DJ a nod when you want it to be over. And some couples like for their wedding party to join in halfway through the song.
5. Do you want a Band or DJ to play the song?
Whether you want a DJ to play your song or have a band compose it takes a toll when deciding. With a DJ, you are confident the song will be successfully delivered. With a band, there is potential for tempo changes that could affect your dance.The emotion that is put into the song that you hear in your headphones or in your car is what made it perfectly yours, the bands version is never exact and the singer may not have the same effect!
Cultural and traditional first dance at Hilton Center City, Charlotte NC (Nada and Ahmad)
“Now join hands, and with your hands your hearts” - William Shakespeare